Just doing it again. Gotta love these Four Agreements!
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BE IMPECCABLE WITH YOUR WORD
Speak with integrity. Say only what you mean. Avoid using the word to speak against yourself or to gossip about others. Use the power of your word in the direction of truth and love.
Today I did speak with love to everyone but myself. I do not have to beat myself up. I do not have to be perfect. I can also be honest.
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DON'T TAKE ANYTHING PERSONALLY
Nothing others do is because of you. What others say and do is a projection of their own reality, their own dream. When you are immune to the opinions and actions of others, you won't be the victim of needless suffering.
The good thing about being me is that I can control myself. I can make my own decisions and I can choose how I'm going to react. I have options today. I can spend days in misery second quessing myself or I can realize that what people do is a projection of their own reality. Just as I do what I believe and see, so do others. My behavior has to do with me and only me. Other people's behavior has to do with them. If I take care of myself then everything else will fall into place. I am my own responsibility and it is not my job to pick apart someone's head or obsess because someone didn't respond how I expected them to. Their reactions and behavior is based on their perception of reality, just as mine is based on my perception.
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DON'T MAKE ASSUMPTIONS
Find the courage to ask questions and to express what you really want. Communicate with others as clearly as you can to avoid misunderstandings, sadness and drama. With just this one agreement, you can completely transform your life.
It was really hard for me to be honest with a friend. I'm not used to it. I cringed and my gut twisted in knots and I spent a few days in shame because I felt that I didn't have a right to say how I felt. It took a lot of courage for me to be honest and I should be congratulating myself instead of doing what I always do, putting myself down and second guessing myself. As I get better I can better express myself. I can tell people what I want. I can handle it if they say no. I can be direct. I can be honest. I do not have to jump to conclusions and read my friend's mind. There is no need for me to do that anymore because I am an adult. I don't have to assume that she hates me because I was direct. I don't have to assume that her drama is a reflection of our relationship. I know she is having a tough time that has nothing to do with me. I can stop taking responsibility for her thoughts and depression. I am not God and I don't have that much power. I don't have to listen to believe the negative thoughts that cause me emotional pain. I don't have to obsess. I am not psychic and it's nice to know that I do not have the power to read another's mind.
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ALWAYS DO YOUR BEST
Your best is going to change from moment to moment; it will be different when you are healthy as opposed to sick. Under any circumstance, simply do your best and you will avoid self-judgment, self-abuse and regret.
I was really proud of myself this week because when I felt the desire to self harm, I stopped. And for the first time I really tried to calm myself down when I had twisted and self destructive thoughts at my meeting. I used my wise mind and disputed the beliefs in my head. I realized that I do not have to give people power. There is no reason for me to beat myself for telling someone the truth. There is no reason to for me to hate myself for being human and making mistakes and having needs. I really am doing the best that I can. Today, instead of spending the evening in my head, I came on this board and did a healthy thing, working through my beliefs.