Eternal, rest assured that everyone struggles with that part of things! What I've found helps the most is to do them as frequently as possible even if only in hindsight - after things have already "gone down" so that you can build the habit of going through your options. The more often you work on exploring the options (what could I do, what could I have done), the easier it becomes to automatically use them.
Keep up the great work!
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