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I had an epiphany while I was going through the five steps tonight. Apart from actually figuring out what the problem was, I realised that...

I am unsatisfied in most areas of my life in SOME way...
Perfection isn't actually possible as my needs and I are constantly changing.
I don't often like one career for more than four years before I get bored...
and I have NEVER met anyone who is absolutely happy in all aspects of their lives...
So, I figure the only thing I can do, is focus on the things that I actually enjoy and just do what I can with the rest of it... There is a reason why my life is the way that it is right now, and through awareness of what I'm going through, I don't actually have to be overwhelmed by it.

Great insight Owl. I have come to similar conclusions for myself, so I relate to what you are saying.


Good stuff. But.....if you are anything like me......I didn't really know what things I actually enjoyed. I didn't know myself as well as I do now, though I thought I did at the time. My actions did not match up with my intentions and it took me a long time before I could get that to work out.

While I agree with your conclusions and think they will be helpful to you.........since you are in the tool shed anyway, why not see what potential problems this somewhat broad conclusion leads toward for you?

Maybe "How can I make the things that I enjoy a priority?" or "What are 3 ways I can go about 'letting go of the rest of it'?" or even "what are some areas of my life that I am dissatisfied with that I can change?" (just identifying the areas and stating them can lead to more epiphanies!) -- can you think of a way to break this down a bit further?

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My actions did not match up with my intentions and it took me a long time before I could get that to work out.

Wow. I hadn't even thought of that! That can definitely hold as a truth in my own life. So many reasons why I avoid doing the things I enjoy.... sometimes.

Maybe "How can I make the things that I enjoy a priority?" or "What are 3 ways I can go about 'letting go of the rest of it'?" or even "what are some areas of my life that I am dissatisfied with that I can change?" (just identifying the areas and stating them can lead to more epiphanies!) -- can you think of a way to break this down a bit further?[/quote]

To be honest... My health has to be my first priority, as without that, I don't feel I can really tackle a lot of the other stuff. I've identified so many areas, and broken them down into the following:

Health:
1. More Sleep
2. A break from work
3. Creative pursuits for relaxation.

Holidays:
1. Ask friends about their plans
2. Make plans with friends
3. Find solo things to enjoy over the break

Work:
1. Have a break
2. Lower work hours
3. Look in to other careers

Home:
1. Let the small things go.
2. Do things I find relaxing.
3. Have time out with friends.

I find the prospects overwhelming when I think of all the areas in my life that I'm dissatisfied with at the moment. I think my health is the most pressing.... I've put things in place at work to make it easier. I'm getting someone to take over some of my hours...

I have a doctors appointment tomorrow, and depending on the results, I may book another app with a specialist for the heartburn.

Right now I'm spending time sewing, trying to relax, reading, eating meals, watching movies, to try and calm some anxiety.

As far as work goes, I'm just doing my best... another thing I read on this site. So, I'm trying not to lay on the guilt when I can't make it to work?