Today, whilst on a really relaxing and rejuvenating beach camping/fishing trip (which I've been on for a week now), I felt my old familiar friend creeping up.
Something he said/did made me incredibly angry. I felt it bubbling and I felt like I couldn't control it. Well, I did.
I slightly bit my lip. I told myself "let it go, you can't control his behavior and nothing bad happened (I catastrophize a lot!).
I went very quiet, then I put my hand on his and smiled. I convinced myself to let it go.
Now, it did get tricky for a brief spell. He asked me "what was that head shake for?" I must have unconsciously shaken away the anger!) I snapped a little and said "I'm processing, please just don't ask why I have to, just ignore it."
He pushed again and said something related to why I had become angry in the first place. Then I slipped up and said "are you dense? Don't talk about it!"
I admit the second part of our dialogue became aggressive but all in all I think I handled the situation better than usual, and now I know to breathe and focus on my lack of control over his actions- I just know its going to get easier.
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