Hi Lirael! Thank you so much for your words, I really appreciate them.
The police got my phone back and also my ex fiance has been very supportive. We still love each other, and are bond to each other, but had to separate over visa bureaucracies, since we're in different countries. Having to deal with another immigration process was more than any of us could handle and so we remain separated. Can't even begin to say how hard this is. I can't speak for him even though I have an idea of what he's been through and it wasn't easy, but for me, one year after the separation, I've came to accept things the way they are and I'm trying to get my individual life back on track and recover all the things I've lost, including balance. And well, against the odds I was told yesterday that I got the job and this made me feel incredibly good. Right after, the usual fears came up, like being scared of change, new environment, new people, new culture since it's a Korean company, not being up to the challenge and my immediate response was to isolate myself from everyone. I know it's a defense mechanism and I have to fight against it. I think I'm mainly afraid of the unknown, because I don't know how my brain will respond to it.
I haven't hurt myself in 11 years, but with the separation, the self harm thoughts have returned and I've had to struggle to keep me safe from myself. In the meanwhile it's been 8 days without any suicidal thoughts. I'm making progress :-)
The day will come when everything will be more simple and I can trust myself to be spontaneous without fear of being impulsive as well. I know it will.
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I want you to know that recovery may not be easy, but it's absolutely possible and incredibly worth it.
I agree totally. I've had lapses in recovery too, but each time it does get easier to pick myself up and keep trying.
Lirael
It's a good perspective, "keep trying". It simplifies everything. Like, the worst that can happen is having to try again. That makes me feel better as it reliefs some of the pressure of not being allowed to fail, like if there would be a limited number of chances and I couldn't waste any. I tend to be my worst enemy, and I know how to torture myself.
I'm so thankful that I found this place. I need to congratulate everyone who has invested their time and energy in these boards. I hope someday I may give my contribution as well.
I'm looking forward to know you too, and thank you once more. ::hug::