Hi Spiralout, and WELCOME to BPDR!!
I'm glad you have stumbled upon us-- you are welcome here. We focus on recovery from mental illness, particularly BPD, so using the tools and focusing on the Self are kinda key around here. I hope this site can be as helpful to you as it has been for me!!
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If I am BPD, is there a higher likelihood of my siblings sharing a similar condition?
Probably.....they think there is a genetic component and I would think simply growing up in the same environment could impart similar traits on siblings. But....it's not that black and white, yes or no, kind of thing. The only way you would really know if any of your sibs suffer with BPD is for them to go to a doc and get a formal diagnosis. It's a tough diagnosis in that many BPD traits overlap with other disorders (like bi-polar or major depression) and really are just everyday "normal" reactions to things magnified to a different level. In other words, traits for BPD can be 'normal'-- it's the duration, intensity and frequency that makes it a 'disorder'.
In any case, I hope that you can let that be an "unknown" in the sense that in order for you to get better, the focus needs to be on you and your feelings. It sounds kinda like it's not really important if they are or if they aren't-- knowing would just be a way for you to measure your own 'crazyness' or 'sanity'. FWIW, I don't believe people with BPD or MDD are 'crazy'-- for me it's 'just' maladaptive coping. Coping is a learned thing, so if the way I learned to cope growing up doesn't work for me as an adult (i.e.BPD behavior) then what I need to focus on is learning new coping skills.
Hope that made some sense and didn't overload you. I'm glad you are here and look forward to getting to know you.
Harmonium