Hello to all;
I am 46, and a co dependant , soon to be X-Wife, of a husband who was diagnosed bi-polar, but has more of the BPD traits.
We had a three year relationship, with the last two being married. Stood by him through his year of drug abuse, the bi-polar, the suicide, and the extreme rages. He left me in Nov. 2011.
From that I have learned so much about myself, about being co-dependant. And I have learned so very much about BPD. I have been to many of the other sites as well, only to find that “nons” are not welcome, or there is no compassion for the people suffering with a disorder they had no choice in. I have a huge amount of compassion for my husband and any other person suffering. Yet as a “non” I still have questions.
For myself I am working on my co-dependency. Setting boundaries, and learning that I am a good person, worthy of some ones love , a love without verbal or mental abuse. I want to learn more.
Thank you. K
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