Trinity wrote:
Welcome MD! This site is all about overcoming BPD using CBT. Ash, who started the site, is now living a happy, healthy life due to CBT and hard work. I used CBT and EMDR, in addition to meds, to get where I am. There's no magic bullet. There's hard work and a decision that you want to change.
Again, welcome, and I wish you and your wife luck.
I understand there's no magic bullet. What brought me here is that I'm hearing on another forum that DBT or Schema are the ONLY ways to go with therapy.My wife is in CBT and So am I. I have been at it for a year and a half both individual sessions and sessions with my wife. My wife has only been going individually for five months. She is on Lexapro 20mg a day.
I was put on Lexapro 10mg a day but have stopped taking it as I have handled the depression from our relationship issues. I was diagnosed ADD and put on Vyvanse, which gave me terrible side effects which effected my ability to be a validating caring spouse.
Is CBT going to work with my wife? Am I expecting too much too soon?
My wife is high functioning for sure but does have some low functioning tendencies - especially when stressed.
The other reason I'm here is to get a better understanding from those that have gone through recovery or are on that path about reasonable expectations and fears they have or have had.
As you would expect it's difficult for my wife to "let me in" on the hard stuff and that's fine with me as long as she is working on it with the T.
She has heard the term BPD but does not acknowledge it. The T says she knows she has issues to contend with and knows they effect her relationships with her family. She is a good person and I lover her very much that's why I've been with her for 25 years.
MD