jodyisme wrote:
you have to think every day and consciously work on the changes. changes in how we think, behave, and feel. no way around that one. its the only way to replace old habits with new healthy ones.
good insight, it is pretty much growing up. not letting our inner child run us, but finding the adult to do it and reparenting the child to feel safe.
what is your anxiety about "things need to be done"?
thanks for the welcome both of you.
By things need to be done I mean that I want to change, but don't know how yet. I have ideas but... I'm very impatient, a trait left from the past. I don't sleep at nights because I think about my life and what i need to do. I also think a lot about telling my ex all of this, which is not what I need right now.
I don't trust psychologists at all. my sister, who is one herself told me its a trait that comes with fear of abandonment. as a BPD I rather s[pill my guts to every person I see than to someone qualified.
also(and as you can see) this brings about a lot of insecurity right now and rethinking everything that I do, which is tiring.