We do allow for "diversity" as you call it. We don't kick people out for making honest mistakes. We don't exclude people who are NONs (or "don't have BPD.") We do, however, ask that everyone is focused on recovery and working earnestly toward healthy, happy living.
BPDR is also founded - in large part - on Don Miguel Ruiz's "Four Agreements" work in which we strive to "Be impeccable with our words." Being precise and careful with our words helps our recovery efforts as we become more aware of our thought processes, the impact of our words & actions on the world around us and so forth.
If you are experiencing something that you might deem "excessive nit-picking" or unfair treatment, you are always welcome to use the "Report Post" option. The button is located inside each and every post put on BPDR forums and you will have a chance to explain why you find the person's words inappropriate, approach offensive or content troubling.
Lastly, I want to say that I do recognize that recovery cannot be linear. (That is to say: you can't say "first do A, then do B, then do C, then you're all fixed!") There are a lot of shades of grey during the recovery process. Some folks are brand new to the idea of what Borderline Personality Disorder is all about and may not be fully committed yet to the process of recovery. Others have made significant progress but still face the occasional stumble along the journey.
The intent of a post cannot necessarily be quantified. As you pointed out, Ski Otter, things are evolutionary. Sure, some folks get lost in the weeds and chase things down rabbit holes but that's where the tolerance you're asking for can come into play. If they're not addressing the items you want, can you ignore them and stay focused on your own goals?
You've said it feels like there are "post police" on the board but how is that different from the expectation that people stay on-track with the original intent of a thread, behave in a specific way, etc.?
I'm not trying to pick on you or hound you or get into an issue of semantics. I'm suggesting that there may be an opportunity for introspection (or looking inwards) here for you.
We cannot control the thoughts or actions of others. The only sphere of influence and control we have is over ourselves.
Maya Angelou wrote:
If you don't like something, change it. If you can't change it, change your attitude. Don't complain.
From
A Complaint Free World.orgGhandi wrote:
Be the change you wish to see in the world.