Calista,
A way I try to get through what it sounds like you are going through is to challenge the reality of what I am thinking. I'm sure you know the tricks, but I thought reminding you of such might be helpful.
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it=hurt, sad, mad, rejected, unworthy, less than, afraid
I think for the ones not in bold, Smilin's suggestions of just being kind to yourself and sitting with/acknowledging your feelings are very helpful.
However, for the bold ones....I would try to think of reasons I find myself 'worthy' or 'not less than' and see if this might just be a blip on the self-esteem radar, or something that truly needs to be addressed. Ruminating on why the other person thinks so is not helpful to you, I don't think--although you didn't say you were doing that, it's what I might do. You might want to determine what it is about the comment that hit so close to home and develop a plan of action to address (or not, as the case may be) the issue(s). In other words, with all the untwisting possible--were they correct in their judgment of you by
your own estimation? If not, there you go. If so, what can you do about it?
Only you know--not that person who said the comment to you. You determine what is right for you and who you wish to be, IMO.
Also, if it was just a 'snap' reaction from someone...I dunno, in my experience that's more coming from their stuff than yours. Maybe they too were having a bad day.
In any case, I hope yours gets better!