Hi Dollbaby,
I have read (and posted in) your other thread about this woman and now a few questions come up for me. In your other thread you have directly stated that you're trying to understand this person, written after you posted here that you do understand her behaviour. Noticing this contradiction brings me to the question do you understand yourself on this subject?
I can also see, as a relative newby here, that you have not yet grasped some of the basic premises of the recovery style we practise here. BPDR encourages us all to work on ourselves, as well as help people in whatever way we can or choose to. An entire community of people who share similar problems amounts to quite a volume of knowledge, compassion, understanding and experience that can be very supportive and helpful for people's recovery, including your own (from whatever issues you've come here to address within yourself). But we cannot work on other people, who aren't here, basically because this isn't a forum for therapists to discuss how to "work on other people". As an emerging therapist yourself I imagine there is a wealth of information and insight already available in existing threads to assist you with that. We're about working on ourselves as well as assist other members to work on themselves. So although your experience and understanding may very well be a great asset to the community, I do urge you to turn the focus in your own threads on to you.
Have you read the Tools section of the site? The Five Steps, The Four Agreements, The Ten Ways to Untwist Your Thinking are very helpful recovery tools which you may like to familiarise yourself with in order to understand a bit of what's going on around here, and also to guide you to Healthier, Happier Living for yourself.
You've not done anything "wrong", as I can see you are new here, so I thought it maybe timely, in order for your own issues to be addressed, that I inform you of how this recovery board provides the nurturing, recovery based environment.
_________________ ~ Sarah
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