Lesson 31: interpersonal effectiveness myths
The myths: 1. I can't stand it if someone gets upset with me 2. If they say no, it will kill me 3. I don't deserve to get what I want or need 4. If I make a request, this will show that I am a very weak person 5. I must be really inadequate if I can't fix this myself 6. I have to know whether a person is going to say yes before I make a request. 7. Making requests is a really pushy (bad, self-centered, selfish, un-Christian) thing to do. 8. It doesn't make any difference; I don't care really. 9. Obviously, the problem is just in my head. If I would just think differently I wouldn't have to bother everybody else. 10. This is a catastrophe (is really bad, is terrible, is driving me crazy, will destroy me, is a disaster). 11. Saying no to a request is always a selfish thing to do 12. I should be willing to sacrifice my own needs for others. 13. When someone gets angry with me they must hate me_ 14. If a group atmosphere is tense it must be my fault
|