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 Post subject: REMINDER - Re: Basic Guidelines of BPDR Forum Use....
PostPosted: Sun Aug 13, 2006 3:42 pm 
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Thought I'd post this as a reminder to folks re: what is expected of any member participating at BPDR:

What are the basic guidelines of the BPDR forums?

This forum is administered by the listed individuals and includes the site owner and webmaster, Ash.

Common courtesy and respect are required at all times.

Please bear in mind that posts made on a discussion board are merely a snapshot of an individual and/or their life. They should be taken in context as such.

Because of the nature of the forum (mental health) and taking into consideration that this is a deeply personal and intensely intimate subject which evokes many deep emotions, certain latitude will be allowed to permit those posting the opportunity to work through their emotions: pain, fear, anxiety, frustration, anger, etc.

In this discussion community, it is also expected that posters will respect the anonymity of those that they post about. In other words, don't post about Mary Jones. Rather refer to her as M or use a fictitious name such as Matilda.

As mentioned, the moderator will allow latitude in the emotional depth of the posts contained within the forum for many reasons:
º Deleting posts invalidates the poster's feelings.
º Leaving the post allows the rest of the community and the subject of the "flame" to respond.
º Dialogue between all parties is the purpose of the forum and to intercede on a regular basis defeats the intent of the forum.
º Honest communication (however harsh it may seem) can bring about awareness and insight not otherwise encountered.

Threads that get heated may be moved [...] at the discretion of the administration.

HTML and BBCodes are allowed at the discussion board and, as such, links included in an individual post are neither endorsed nor verified by BPDRecovery.com.

While it is expected that individuals will behave in a respectful and courteous manner toward others, no language filters have been imposed.

BPDR has a Community Leadership Team which consists of volunteers dedicated to the principles of the site. Everyone is expected to behave maturely and responsibly.

If your post would be better suited in a different forum, it will be moved.

This site is open to all who wish to participate however we try to keep a recovery focus - health and healing - rather than nursing grudges or harboring resentment.

This site does not, in principle, believe in banning individuals. However there may come times when such an action would be taken, as has happened in the past.

If the individual engages in some introspection, seeks to return to the community and is able to show improvement in attitude and willingness to work within the basic guidelines, they will be welcomed back with open arms.

There have been times when an individual has posted some pretty harsh material about their personal life - suicidal ideation, life-threatening scenarios, other types of situations that cause distress within the community.

Please be aware that it is the policy of BPDRecovery.com that no real-life actions will be taken to assist that individual. While this may seem harsh, as has already been indicated, posts are mere snapshots of a person's psyche and life.

We are not equipped to save lives and we will not endeavor to attempt such feats.

If you are suicidal, you may certainly post your feelings to explore what's going on however please do not expect that a community member or a member of the BPDR Leadership Team will take real-life actions to assist you.

We encourage you to seek professional, competent and qualified help immediately.
[Emphasis added].

Sometimes when threads get heated, (which can often occur when a discussion involves controversial topics about which folks have strong opinions), it is a good idea to take a brief break, catch ones' breath, check out the tools, (including the Four Agreements, etc.), and then return in a way that allows us to 'respond' rather than 'react'.

This approach does not, imo, in any way lessen the passion with which one holds their particular opinion/view, but simply allows one to communicate about it in a calm and respectful manner which is, in my experience, more effective anyway.


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