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Hi all

I'm new here and I'm not feeling well lately. Posted and into but needed to sound off on here...my mum passed away suddenly last month, police are involved as step father suspect in her death, he's trying to steal y inheritance, and I've had all my benefit taken off me. Self harming like crazy. Posted on another forum about something else off topic and no one replied and that was enough to trigger an episode. I've been accused of lying by the benefits agency time and again, been shouted at and had the phone slammed down on me now someone who I turned to help me accused me if lying, I've lost lot of weight though sheer sress although I am eating it's just fallen off me and now I weigh only 7 stones...feel like I hate myself and everybody hates me. Sorry to sound negative I'm just having a bad time.

Fluffy, I'm sorry you're having a bad time. I think anyone would if they had to deal with the situation re: your mom and step-dad. I guess I might start by asking if you've given yourself time to mourn for your mom, or if you've been just trying to deal with all the other stuff?

Hi FluffyPumpkin -

I'm sorry about the loss of your mother -- that's hard enough to deal with, but must be that much more difficult if your step-father may have had something to do with it.

It sounds like you definitely need somebody to act as an advocate for you and help you through all this, especially regarding the possible loss of money or property to your step-father. I don't know how it works in the UK (I'm assuming you're from there, since you refer to your weight in stones) -- are there attorneys (or solicitors, or whatever you call them) who do pro-bono (free) or sliding-scale work? Do you have a therapist or doctor or even a family friend who could advise you or help you in some way? You might need to make some noise, but it would be worth it in the long run if you can get some help.

I hope things get better for you soon!

Thanks guys...you're right Trinity I haven't really hd time to grive..I did for the first two weeks...so much s I wanted to end i all to b with her but then after that I sort of got angry and numb and stayed tht way. Spokn to solicitor...she said she owuld have been happy to help me but she can't because (her words) I've been 'stitched up'. She said it's blatantly obvious what hes done...taken advanatege of vulnerable woan liek my mum, got he to change her wil, gave himself power of attorey then got her to transfer the funds from the sae if her house into his account. She moved in with him three months after his previous wife died. As such I haven't got a claim to make on her estate because the monies she transfered would be considered a gist and therefore his in law...so basically he set a trap for me. I feel so swindled and used...like my past has been snatched way from me. My mm promised me she'd take care of me if anything was to hapen to her, she promised and now this. Now my only means of living t the moment has been taken aaway from me by the benefits agency until they get thier act together. I'm in debt as a result. I feel so lost and alone, local friends aren't very supportive, well, onny realy have one and sh seems to 'forget' me all the time, live alone, feel like I'm not a person sometimes.

still hurting

Fluffy if you are indeed in the UK I wanted to say feel free to PM me if you want to. I am quite up on the benefits agency through personal experience and through people I work with. I am aware that discussing specific of the DSS dealings in public is not the best thing to do. There are ways of dealing with these people though!

I have some other ideas for getting support for you if you are in fact in the UK I will be happy to share some of the things I have discovered with you. Have you any Mh support currently?

Let me know, sorry you are dealing with this, sure it must seem overwhelming at times, especially whilst you are still dealing with grief!

Bogit

thankm for your offer of help...it has been very challenging for me lately...I became very ill in September (physically and mentally) through mirtazapine and ended up in hospital, started to get over it then my mum died then shortly afterwards had my benefit stopped. I have both a mental healtha nd physical condition so it's a double edged sword. I also have very little support from anywhere or anyone. No one has even visited me since my mm died and this has compounded my athologically low self esteem causing me to self harm. SO called friends have promised to coe er ad haven't. It's deeply hurtful. Then thre's my step aftehr stealing all my inheritance, gossiping about me and sending me to coventry.I feel isolated, neglected and unloved. I feel that my benefits being suspended was a messge that I don't deserve life. I'm trying so hard ot get better but it's tricky wen you feel as though got everything and eerybody against you. I quit my therapist as I ws seeing him for 7months and it wasn't heping because he couldn'tmake head notr tale of me. There are now no other psychs in the area so am going to try to get mysel referrd to a PD pecialist if possible. even thought about a therpautic community for just a short while.

Bogit

thankm for your offer of help...it has been very challenging for me lately...I became very ill in September (physically and mentally) through mirtazapine and ended up in hospital, started to get over it then my mum died then shortly afterwards had my benefit stopped. I have both a mental healtha nd physical condition so it's a double edged sword. I also have very little support from anywhere or anyone. No one has even visited me since my mm died and this has compounded my athologically low self esteem causing me to self harm. SO called friends have promised to come over and haven't. It's deeply hurtful. Then thre's my step aftehr stealing all my inheritance, gossiping about me and sending me to coventry.I feel isolated, neglected and unloved. I feel that my benefits being suspended was a messge that I don't deserve life. I'm trying so hard ot get better but it's tricky wen you feel as though got everything and eerybody against you. I quit my therapist as I ws seeing him for 7months and it wasn't heping because he couldn'tmake head notr tale of me. There are now no other psychs in the area so am going to try to get mysel referrd to a PD pecialist if possible. even thought about a therpautic community for just a short while.