ibfuddled wrote:
I'm thinking this phobia may be specific to relationships or limited in some way... look over to the left... right under the star beneath your nick. What do ya see? Two years of non-committal lollygagging here just for grins? That's not what I've seen.
Well, that's true but I don't think I've ever put my heart into it, if that makes sense. I just sort of come and go and never make a real commitment to anything.
ibfuddled wrote:
Don't know much about phobia theory, but it almost sounds like the exposure approach could have some promise. Kinda like Amanda's thread about purposely setting up distress tolerance (trigger management) situations with people to practice and build skill and strength in responding effectively.
In this case you might structure some experiences to expose your emotionally vulnerability. Starting safely, build on successes and learnings to help you be effective in increasingly challenging and complex situations... until you get to the point where you can expose your vulnerability intentionally and choose to do it because it adds so much to your relationship and life.
Well, I think that's what I'm doing. I'm slowly getting out to try to understand people and situations, and I'm allowing myself to grow at my own pace, but I'm still not ready to put all my eggs in the basket, if that makes sense. I'm still kindof hanging on to parts of myself that aren't right for me. I just can't jump off the cliff yet. I'm scared I'll be terribly disappointed and it will break my heart, AGAIN. lol.