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This community - and its CL team, thanks to its owner/leader - encourage abuse under the guise of 'recovery'.
Posting something about another's "diminished intelligence" is just f'ing mean. (I think you know who I am talking to.) How is that a nudge or helpful? Answer: It isn't. It's abusive and unneccesary. Moreover, I don't even find it to be true.
Posting that someone is "certifiable" because they don't see another's POV is just f'ing mean.
Both posts were intended to dimish the persons that the authors were posting about. To invalidate them. To tarnish them in some way to others in the Forum on here.
Slanderous even.
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Those of us who do not look inside for our solutions tend to see the problems as outside ourselves. Those people I know in "recovery" who choose NOT to focus on themselves have a tendency to cast their problems onto other people. When we put our energy into examining what other people did or did not do with/to/for us, we are not focusing on ourselves.
Yes. I agree.
It is the ones that say, "I don't care how I got the PD, I just have it. And I am going to work on it from that angle" I think, don't get it.
For what reasons do you have the PD? Have you done any introspection on that? Any soul searching? That doesn't mean I go around blaming my Dad, I sure as hell don't. But I look inside for answers. Am
I capable of becoming my Dad? What are the traits that I don't like? DO I see them in myself? What work on myself do I need to do? What can I do in the future to protect myself?
Study NPD and how the N affects those around him/her.
Study BPD and how the B affects those around him/her.
It doesn't happen in a vacuum. PD's affect other people in a lot of ways. (Go to FiF if you want proof.)
With that, I am leaving this thread.