Well, I can see from this post why Crystal might be crying. IMO Crystal seems a bit heavy handed with her judgments and labels about herself. She's set it up so that no matter what she does she's doing something wrong. Canyou give Crystal a fighting chance?
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but there's this eternal voice in my head that every once and a while tells me there is nothing wrong with me, that i am just misbehaving and trying to get away with being lazy and self-centered.
So it looks like you believe that no matter what you're doing, you're either doing something "wrong".. (misbehaving... getting away with... being lazy... being self-centered).. OR... there is something "wrong" with you that is causing you to do things this way.
Please see "Ten Forms of Twisted Thinking", items 8, 9, and 10.
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does anyone else experience this, and if so-what has helped you come to accept that there is something wrong?
I believe you have plenty of company here with this kind of thinking.
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accept that there is something wrong? or, is it possible that all the panic attacks and fear and scattered thinking and sleeping problems could be easily fixed if i just forgot about them?
Perhaps a beginning would be to accept that the behavior pattern exists... and that there is no particular moral judgment to it. If the behaviors are effective and nobody gets hurt... then fine, no need to change. If they are not effective or if somebody gets hurt, then you have some changes to make. Some different choices among possible behaviors and reactions. "Easily" fixed? I dunno about easy, that's another judgment that depends on what's easy or difficult for you. Can you make changes that leave you and those you love feeling better? Yep. Some very effective tools are to be found here. There are many others. You can be who you want to be.
So what are the "good" "not wrong" and "right" things about Crystal and her values, thinking and behavior patterns?