Anchorage wrote:
Thanks all for your responses. My hope is this will be a lasting reminder (not every-time of course) that when things go sideways to stop and ask myself how much of the issue is being caused by the way I'm responding to it. I think it good for me to take things one moment at a time.
Have a good day all
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I had the same sort of insight about 2 months ago. For my whole life I'd be the victim and it was always other peoples fault. The worst part was I honestly didn't see it.
I wish there was a way to show fellow BPDs, but it one of those lessons that must be learnt and not forced. I know if someone had have told me, I wouldn't have understood and would have taken it as an attack.
Great work Anchorage!
PS. I Like your "sideways" terminology, it's much more positive than saying you go backwards. I might use that myself
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MJ