Shelbeth,
To tell you the truth I think that your gf has made it very clear what she wants and expects from you. You can choose to learn how to salsa dance on your own at a different salsateca.....but if you love and respect your gf you need to respect her boundaries as well.
Don't take it personally. She has a different relationship with you and that's how she likes it.
Maybe you should ask yourself WHY do you want to go salsa dancing with her? If you want to learn.....go learn....but not with her. Do you really want to see her dancing with other people? If so....WHY? What do you want to know....don't you trust her? If you don't.....why are you with her?
I should disclose that I too love salsa dancing and I would be in the same position as your gf if I had a bf who didn't know how to dance........or who didn't understand the culture. It really is not about you. You have to believe that. Dancing is excellent exercise....fun......and requires a lot of skill. It is wonderful to practice dancing with a lot of different people because it keeps you on your toes.....by that I mean everyone dances differently so you always have to learn the style of whoever you're dancing with at the moment so it is very challenging.....and for me that is a lot of fun.
Maybe you need to find another activity that suits your personality....and plan to be busy doing that on the nights that your gf goes dancing.
Shelbeth wrote:
I told her that I would like to learn so we could have something together because I know how much salsa dancing means to her.
Could it be that you don't have a lot in common.....and that is bugging you? Just something to think about.