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 Post subject: Identifying the Twist in the 20 Common Negative Assumptions
PostPosted: Fri Aug 13, 2010 3:44 pm 
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I've got time to kill, so I thought I'd tackle this, identifying the types of twisted thinking in the "20 Common Negative Assumptions in BPD thinking." Comments and ideas for what else fits or fits better are very welcome!

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20 Common Negative Assumptions in BPD thinking

1. I will always be alone.
2. There is no one who really cares about me, who will be available to help me, and whom I can fall back on.
3. If others really get to know me, they will find me rejectable and will not be able to love me; and they will leave me.
4. I can't manage by myself, I need someone I can fall back on.
5. I have to adapt my needs to other people's wishes, otherwise they will leave me or attack me.
6. I have no control of myself.
7. I can't discipline myself.
8. I don't really know what I want.
9. I need to have complete control of my feelings otherwise things go completely wrong.
10. I am an evil person and I need to be punished for it.
11. If someone fails to keep a promise, that person can no longer be trusted.
12. I will never get what I want.
13. If I trust someone, I run a great risk of getting hurt or disappointed.
14. My feelings and opinions are unfounded.
15. If you comply with someone's request, you run the risk of losing yourself.
16. If you refuse someone's request, you run the risk of losing that person.
17. Other people are evil and abuse you.
18. I'm powerless and vulnerable and I can't protect myself.
19. If other people really get to know me they will find me rejectable.
20. Other people are not willing or helpful.


Source: Behaviour Research & Therapy article



Numbers 1 through 5:
1. I will always be alone.
*fortune-telling
*overgeneralization

2. There is no one who really cares about me, who will be available to help me, and whom I can fall back on.
*emotional reasoning
*mind-reading
*fortune-telling

3. If others really get to know me, they will find me rejectable and will not be able to love me; and they will leave me.
*fortune-telling

4. I can't manage by myself, I need someone I can fall back on.
*emotional reasoning

5. I have to adapt my needs to other people's wishes, otherwise they will leave me or attack me.
*fortune-telling
*all-or-nothing thinking

...

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 Post subject: Re: Identifying the Twist in the 20 Common Negative Assumptions
PostPosted: Fri Aug 13, 2010 7:49 pm 
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Numbers 6-20

6. I have no control of myself.
*all-or-nothing
*emotional reasoning

7. I can't discipline myself.
*all-or-nothing
*emotional reasoning

8. I don't really know what I want.
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9. I need to have complete control of my feelings otherwise things go completely wrong.
*all-or-nothing
*overgeneralization

10. I am an evil person and I need to be punished for it.
*labeling
*"should" statement

11. If someone fails to keep a promise, that person can no longer be trusted.
*all-or-nothing
*overgeneralization

12. I will never get what I want.
*overgeneralization
*fortune-telling

13. If I trust someone, I run a great risk of getting hurt or disappointed.
-------

14. My feelings and opinions are unfounded.
*all-or-nothing

15. If you comply with someone's request, you run the risk of losing yourself.
*all-or-nothing

16. If you refuse someone's request, you run the risk of losing that person.
*all-or-nothing

17. Other people are evil and abuse you.
*labeling
*blame
*overgeneralization

18. I'm powerless and vulnerable and I can't protect myself.
*labeling
*emotional reasoning

19. If other people really get to know me they will find me rejectable.
*fortune-telling
*emotional reasoning

20. Other people are not willing or helpful.
*mind-reading
*overgeneralization

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Where are we going, and why am I in this hand basket?
This road is paved with good intentions because intent is irrelevant. Not all who burn are witches.
Sometimes the best way to get out is to keep going through.
Be wild: accept it as it is, for its a bewilderness out there!


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 Post subject: Re: Identifying the Twist in the 20 Common Negative Assumptions
PostPosted: Mon Aug 16, 2010 1:19 am 
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bewilderness: thanks a lot for this! Am thinking of printing this out and putting it in my bedroom!


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 Post subject: Re: Identifying the Twist in the 20 Common Negative Assumptions
PostPosted: Wed Aug 18, 2010 8:26 pm 
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I see myself in all of it. What was your source?


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 Post subject: Re: Identifying the Twist in the 20 Common Negative Assumptions
PostPosted: Wed Aug 18, 2010 9:02 pm 
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Martha: I actually stole it from another thread, I think the thread is a sticky, meaning it should be near the top of the page in the (Un)Do the Twist forum.
its called "The 20 Common Negative Assumptions in BPD thinking" or something to that effect. Ask the OP where s/he got 'em, 'cause I stole 'em from him/her.

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Where are we going, and why am I in this hand basket?
This road is paved with good intentions because intent is irrelevant. Not all who burn are witches.
Sometimes the best way to get out is to keep going through.
Be wild: accept it as it is, for its a bewilderness out there!


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 Post subject: Re: Identifying the Twist in the 20 Common Negative Assumptions
PostPosted: Fri Aug 20, 2010 10:18 pm 
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This is amazing. I copied it into my journal. Maybe I'll frame it.

Thanks!


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